The Pressure of Being Perfect - SmoshCast #83
[00:00 - 00:11]Quick shout out to our sponsors, Tushy and Talkspace
[00:11 - 00:56]Kimmy has an audition persona that never went away
[00:26 - 00:50]Anxiety and perfectionism manifest in other ways
[00:59 - 01:23]Ian shares a story of throwing up while working out
[01:23 - 01:41]Ian and Kimmy are on the Smoshcast
[01:42 - 01:58]She is tall and white-passing
[01:58 - 02:16]Close friends can't get away with certain things with Kimmy
[02:16 - 02:57]They plan on getting deep into Kimmy's past
[02:29 - 03:12]They discuss Kimmy's need for perfection growing up
[03:12 - 03:25]They answer questions from fans about Kimmy's life
[03:26 - 05:47]They talk about their morning routines and exercise habits
[04:18 - 04:29]They discuss Kimmy's need for perfection growing up
[04:29 - 04:35]Close friends can't get away with certain things with Kimmy
[04:35 - 04:40]Ian and Kimmy are on the Smoshcast
[04:41 - 05:12]They discuss Kimmy's need for perfection growing up
[05:00 - 05:05]Close friends can't get away with certain things with Kimmy
[05:26 - 06:04]Ian shares a story of throwing up while working out
[06:04 - 06:21]They talk about their morning routines and exercise habits
[06:21 - 06:40]They discuss different weightlifting techniques
[06:40 - 07:00]They briefly mention CrossFit and its potential for injury
[07:00 - 07:06]They talk about their morning routines and exercise habits
[07:06 - 07:20]They jump into questions from fans
[07:21 - 07:43]Kimmy has an audition persona that never went away
[07:21 - 07:43]The speaker is complimented on their upbeat and bubbly personality on camera
[07:43 - 08:06]Kimmy is compared to her mother who people haven't met yet
[07:43 - 08:46]The speaker's father is responsible for their less bubbly side
[07:55 - 08:56]The speaker is complimented on their upbeat and bubbly personality on camera
[08:56 - 11:32]The speaker has anxiety and finds it difficult to sit still and meditate for long periods of time
[10:50 - 11:59]They sometimes struggle to maintain their upbeat demeanor, but use meditation to help them get back to a positive place
[12:00 - 12:57]The speaker is complimented on their upbeat and bubbly personality on camera
[13:08 - 14:29]They tend to keep their struggles to themselves and have a fear of burdening others
[13:51 - 14:58]They also have a tendency to overthink and create problems in their head, rather than asking for help
[14:29 - 15:22]The speaker's need to be independent may stem from being the eldest sibling
[15:22 - 16:30]As a teenager, the speaker used to keep their interests and activities private from their parents, but now their entire life is public
[15:29 - 15:37]They used to fill in the gaps in their knowledge and understanding by reading and overthinking.
[16:16 - 17:48]As a teenager, the speaker used to keep their interests and activities private from their parents, but now their entire life is public
[16:30 - 18:23]They mention potentially overcorrecting and being too much of a communicator at times
[16:42 - 17:16]Person talking discusses their communication style as an adult, comparing it to their childhood
[16:55 - 18:01]Person explains that they feel the need to address any potential issues in their relationships, but sometimes these issues are actually not problems and they need to learn to handle them on their own
[17:17 - 20:15]Other person asks for clarification on what they mean by communicating too much
[19:03 - 20:27]Mention of an ex calling them an "accidental asshole" because they would say things without intending to hurt the other person, but they would come off as blunt
[19:37 - 19:50]They also mention having too much therapy and constantly feeling the need to communicate everything
[20:27 - 21:42]Conversation shifts to a sponsor for the show (Talk Space) and the importance of investing in mental health
[21:42 - 22:10]Mention of half of the person's family being more outgoing and the other half being more blunt and not always considering others' feelings
[22:10 - 22:28]They mention having to get used to the bluntness but also recognizing the benefits of being truthful
[22:29 - 23:43]Conversation shifts to talking about cultural differences in communication, specifically mentioning American culture being passive-aggressive
[22:43 - 23:50]Conversation shifts to talking about arguments and how they don't like confrontation or shouting
[23:11 - 24:55]They mention having to get used to the bluntness but also recognizing the benefits of being truthful
[25:09 - 25:51]Discussion on how people sometimes take advantage of the person's kindness and how they have had to learn to stand up for themselves and snap when necessary
[25:22 - 25:28]Conversation shifts to talking about arguments and how they don't like confrontation or shouting
[25:29 - 25:40]Conversation ends with a humorous note about having a "self crisis" and questioning if their thoughts make sense.
[25:51 - 26:34]Discussion on how people sometimes take advantage of the person's kindness and how they have had to learn to stand up for themselves and snap when necessary
[26:00 - 26:08]Conversation shifts to talking about arguments and how they don't like confrontation or shouting
[26:35 - 27:14]Conversation ends with a humorous note about having a "self crisis" and questioning if their thoughts make sense.
[27:14 - 27:37]Discussion on how people sometimes take advantage of the person's kindness and how they have had to learn to stand up for themselves and snap when necessary
[27:46 - 28:34]Mention of only shouting at one person in the past and not liking shouting as a form of communication
[28:34 - 28:56]Conversation ends with a humorous note about having a "self crisis" and questioning if their thoughts make sense.
[28:34 - 29:09]The speaker was always a big fan of comedy but didn't consider pursuing it until later in life.
[28:42 - 29:44]The speaker grew up watching Monty Python and The Princess Bride with their parents and developed a love for comedy.
[29:45 - 30:12]They also watched a lot of SNL and would try to stay up late to watch it on the weekends.
[30:13 - 31:35]The speaker was always a big fan of comedy but didn't consider pursuing it until later in life.
[30:59 - 31:29]They started taking groundlings classes after their Smosh audition and became more interested in comedy.
[31:35 - 32:20]The speaker and a friend started making comedy videos together and realized they enjoyed writing sketches.
[32:00 - 32:44]The speaker was always a big fan of comedy but didn't consider pursuing it until later in life.
[32:45 - 34:33]They also watched a lot of SNL and would try to stay up late to watch it on the weekends.
[33:26 - 34:39]The speaker and a friend started making comedy videos together and realized they enjoyed writing sketches.
[33:34 - 34:27]The speaker was always a big fan of comedy but didn't consider pursuing it until later in life.
[34:42 - 35:21]The speaker's first kiss was at 16 and they didn't attend many parties in high school.
[35:09 - 37:07]The speaker's mom would often incorporate karaoke into friend hangouts and parties at their house.
[36:02 - 38:40]A conversation about karaoke and its significance in Filipino culture
[36:28 - 36:43]The speaker and a friend started making comedy videos together and realized they enjoyed writing sketches.
[37:38 - 39:05]A mention of the "My Way" murders, a social phenomenon in the Philippines related to karaoke
[39:10 - 40:05]A conversation about karaoke and its significance in Filipino culture
[40:06 - 40:32]A mention of the "My Way" murders, a social phenomenon in the Philippines related to karaoke
[40:33 - 44:55]Personal experiences with being mistaken for a different ethnicity and the annoyance of being questioned about it
[43:28 - 46:30]They struggle with identifying with one side more than the other, being mixed race
[44:20 - 46:16]Childhood experiences of being caught between Asian and white kids, playing in a soccer game divided by race
[44:55 - 45:48]A conversation about race and its complexities and troubles.
[46:30 - 48:33]The speaker is still figuring out their identity and finding it fascinating to learn about their family history
[47:35 - 50:04]The speaker discusses the pressure to fit into a specific racial identity
[49:15 - 51:23]Childhood experiences of being caught between Asian and white kids, playing in a soccer game divided by race
[50:25 - 51:14]The speaker feels like an outsider due to their height and appearance
[51:23 - 55:24]College was a breeze for the speaker, but they struggle with having free time and making decisions for themselves
[54:48 - 57:06]They have anxiety and body image issues, stemming from a high-pressure childhood with strict expectations and juggling multiple activities
[54:56 - 57:18]College was a breeze for the speaker, but they struggle with having free time and making decisions for themselves
[55:38 - 58:37]The speaker reflects on their past struggles with anxiety and perfectionism, and reveals that they often put too much pressure on themselves.
[58:24 - 1.03:17]The speaker also touches on the societal pressures and privileges that contribute to these unhealthy relationships with food.
[1.02:37 - 1.05:18]The speaker reflects on their past struggles with anxiety and perfectionism, and reveals that they often put too much pressure on themselves.
[1.03:26 - 1.05:53]The speaker also touches on the societal pressures and privileges that contribute to these unhealthy relationships with food.
[1.05:53 - 1.07:43]The speaker suggests affirming one's positive qualities and accomplishments as a way to combat negative self-talk and promote self-love.
[1.06:07 - 1.08:16]The speaker reflects on their past struggles with anxiety and perfectionism, and reveals that they often put too much pressure on themselves.
[1.07:06 - 1.08:34]They mention liking certain aspects of their work and feeling excited about it
[1.07:24 - 1.08:16]They mention seeking therapy and talking to trusted family or friends for support
[1.07:49 - 1.09:33]The speaker talks about the importance of being open and communicative about feelings, especially if struggling with anxiety or social anxiety
[1.09:33 - 1.13:55]The speaker reflects on past toxic relationships and the importance of surrounding oneself with supportive and positive people
[1.13:56 - 1.16:52]They mention a "shoot dude" story submitted by a listener about a mishap during a wedding performance
[1.15:38 - 1.18:35]The speaker and co-host watch a video of the incident and discuss the potential consequences (i.e. ruining the cake)
[1.18:36 - 1.19:51]The speaker is discussing a recent sketch they shot
[1.18:42 - 1.19:45]The speaker thanks the guest for coming on and the podcast ends with a reminder to subscribe and leave a review.
[1.18:56 - 1.20:16]They mention liking certain aspects of their work and feeling excited about it