[00:00 - 00:12]Wakes up on lecture day and tries to figure out what to talk about

[00:13 - 00:30]Topic of asking for help has been coming up a lot in his life

[00:13 - 00:30]He was always on the other side and is now learning how to ask for help

[00:30 - 00:56]Quick story to contextualize why asking for help is important

[01:33 - 01:41]Graduated high school in 2014 and didn't want to go to college

[01:33 - 01:41]Already making money selling shirts online

[01:42 - 01:52]Graduated college in 2018 and moved to San Francisco

[02:51 - 02:57]Still did other projects in college (built products, worked on AI and self-driving cars)

[03:19 - 03:30]Felt alone and had little idea of what to do next

[04:17 - 04:24]Sucked at asking for help and felt like he had to conquer the world alone

[04:53 - 05:00]Started writing a newsletter as a way to talk about what he was doing

[05:08 - 05:18]Covered various topics and had a small email list of supportive people

[07:00 - 07:06]Talked about specific fan theories, ideas for future projects, and his life

[07:06 - 07:12]At first, no one really cared or replied to his newsletter

[07:33 - 07:42]Over time, more people started to notice and support him

[07:33 - 07:42]Over time, more people started to notice and support him

[00:00 - 07:48]Struggles with asking for help and feeling alone, starts writing a newsletter to talk about his projects and ideas, eventually gains support and success.

[07:56 - 08:04] The speaker receives infrequent replies to his newsletter, but one day he receives a response from a random guy at Google, David Arnido.

[08:10 - 08:15]He meets with David and they become friends.

[11:54 - 12:00]A year later, the speaker receives an email from internet celebrity, Sean Puri, who offers to fly him out to San Francisco and fund his idea.

[12:17 - 12:26]The speaker is amazed and realizes the importance of building relationships and bringing others along on his journey.

[12:32 - 12:39]Sean's replies and advice greatly help the speaker and change his trajectory.

[13:57 - 14:09]Most people struggle with asking for help, but the speaker believes it is necessary and important.

[14:24 - 14:29]The speaker believes that most people need help, even if they don't know it yet.

[14:38 - 14:43]As people work on things, they will eventually stagnate and need help.

[14:38 - 14:43]Stagnation is common in life and history.

[07:48 - 14:58]The speaker believes that building relationships and asking for help can greatly benefit and change one's trajectory.

[16:37 - 16:42]The speaker discusses the reality of progress and shows a graph of ups and downs.

[17:03 - 17:10]Stagnation is normal and difficult to deal with emotionally.

[17:23 - 17:32]It is important to have people in your life who are ahead of you and willing to help you.

[18:25 - 18:33]Different types of relationships can provide help, such as mentor-mentee, partnership, or even simple moments of assistance.

[21:20 - 21:32]It is important to start small and find the right person to ask for help in order to push your work forward.

[21:33 - 21:44]Ways to ask for help include going direct, finding someone a few steps ahead of you, and having a specific ask.

[14:58 - 22:35]Stagnation is normal, but with the help of others, you can break out of it and continue making progress.

[27:21 - 27:30] The speaker emphasizes the importance of finding people who can help you in a specific way and knowing what you need help on

[28:34 - 28:41]They give an example of reaching out to someone who has experience in building AI apps for help

[28:34 - 28:41]The speaker talks about how they reached out to their own contacts for help with their newsletter and how that worked for them

[28:34 - 28:41]They mention the effectiveness of sending out one-page Google Docs to clearly communicate what help you need

[28:41 - 28:46]They introduce the concept of opening yourself up for help and letting others track your journey

[29:09 - 29:15]The speaker suggests going directly to people who are a few steps ahead of you, rather than those who are too far ahead

[29:28 - 29:39]The speaker gives an example of someone who sends out monthly vlogs to keep people updated on their progress and how it has helped them connect with others

[22:38 - 29:58]The speaker discusses the importance of finding and reaching out to people who can help you in a specific way, giving examples of how they have done it in the past and suggesting strategies for connecting with potential helpers.

[30:05 - 30:15]Nishu gives Stavan the opportunity to help him by sending him vlogs and essays

[30:15 - 30:21]Stavan sometimes replies, sometimes doesn't

[30:40 - 30:47]Nishu also sends updates to other people once a month

[32:31 - 32:37]Nishu's philosophy is to let others decide if his content is worth their time

[33:54 - 34:03]People tend to only post their achievements and not their struggles online

[34:11 - 34:19]It's up to the individual to decide how public they want to be with their struggles

[34:38 - 34:45]Putting struggles out there can make people sympathize and have more empathy

[34:59 - 35:04]It's important to have a group of people to depend on who won't judge you

[35:31 - 35:39]Fear of being judged should not dictate decisions

[35:54 - 36:01]Be the type of person people want to help

[36:51 - 37:08]Show the people who help you the result of their advice within a day or two

[37:18 - 37:25]People are less likely to help if you don't show them the result

[37:18 - 37:25]Nishu gives advice on TikToks but no one has come back to show the result

[37:18 - 37:25]People who don't show results are harder to help

[29:58 - 37:51]Nishu emphasizes the importance of showing results to those who help you and being the type of person people want to help. He also discusses his philosophy of putting struggles out there and the importance of having a supportive group.

[37:51 - 38:00]The speaker discusses the importance of updating someone who has helped you.

[38:27 - 38:33]They ask the audience to reflect on how they ask for help and if it is a pain for the person helping.

[38:40 - 38:48]It is important to make it simple for someone to understand your problem when asking for help.

[39:25 - 39:34]The speaker encourages the audience to think about whether they drain the person helping them or if they energize them.

[41:24 - 41:29]Asking for help should not be seen as a one-off request, but as a long-term relationship.

[41:55 - 42:03]The speaker shares a personal example of a long-term relationship with someone who has helped them.

[43:55 - 44:04]It is important to provide updates and results when asking for help.

[37:51 - 44:38]The speaker emphasizes the importance of updating someone who has helped you, asks the audience to reflect on how they ask for help, and encourages them to make it simple for others to understand their problems. They also discuss the importance of not draining the person helping and building long-term relationships when asking for help. The speaker shares a personal example and mentions someone who has greatly impacted their life through a long-term relationship.

[44:48 - 44:53]2018: Wrote a blog post about deep learning

[45:00 - 45:07]Blog post goes mini-viral, catches the attention of Fercon on Reddit

[45:07 - 45:14]Sharif, a friend, connects Farza with Fercon

[45:36 - 45:43]Farza messages Fercon on Twitter, no expectations

[46:00 - 46:05]Fercon offers dinner at his office and they start talking regularly

[48:15 - 48:20]Fercon helps Farza focus on important ideas and opportunities

[48:36 - 48:44]Farza shares everything with Fercon, including personal struggles

[48:56 - 49:02]Farza constantly updates Fercon on his progress and ideas

[48:56 - 49:02]Fercon is the only person Farza has to share his successes with

[50:19 - 50:26]Farza shares big wins, like getting into Y Combinator, with Fercon

[50:52 - 50:59]Fercon becomes a partner and mentor, offering advice and feedback

[50:59 - 51:05]No one seeks to help Farza, but connections and mentorship happen naturally

[51:11 - 51:19]Farza creates an environment for these connections and mentorship to flourish

[44:39 - 51:19]Farza connects with Fercon through a viral blog post, with the help of Sharif. They start talking regularly and Fercon becomes a partner and mentor, offering advice and feedback. Farza shares everything with Fercon and they celebrate big wins together. These connections and mentorship happen naturally and Farza creates an environment for them to flourish.

[51:20 - 51:27]The speaker talks about how his relationship with his mentor has evolved over time.

[53:51 - 53:58]He encourages the audience to ask for help and be honest with each other.

[54:38 - 54:45]He advises not to rely on one person's advice and to make decisions on their own.

[56:13 - 56:19]The speaker shares a personal story of how he persistently reached out to someone for help.

[56:13 - 56:19]Ultimately, the speaker encourages the audience to be honest with themselves about where they need help.

[56:13 - 56:19]The speaker reminds the audience to be open to help from those who may be a few steps ahead of them.

[56:13 - 56:19]He also emphasizes the importance of being clear and direct in asking for help.

[56:13 - 56:19]The speaker shares a personal example of how he persistently reached out to someone for help.

[58:14 - 58:26]He emphasizes the importance of being relentless and shameless in pursuing opportunities.

[51:20 - 58:33]He concludes by encouraging the audience to be persistent and unafraid in asking for help, and to always be honest with themselves about where they need improvement.

[58:39 - 58:45] The speaker talks about his interactions with hundreds of people on the internet and how he understands the difficulty of getting a response.

[1.00:24 - 1.00:29]He advises people to trust their gut when talking to others and not to continue conversations if they don't enjoy talking to them.

[1.01:21 - 1.01:28]The speaker shares his philosophy of keeping people around in life because he likes having them around and possibly for future opportunities.

[1.02:00 - 1.02:07]He mentions a friend who constantly asks for help and how the speaker and his other friends are always willing to help and offer advice.

[1.03:45 - 1.03:53]The speaker's moral of the story is to not be afraid to ask for help and to understand that worst case scenario, the person may say no.

[58:33 - 1.04:18]Overall, the speaker emphasizes the importance of surrounding oneself with supportive and helpful individuals.